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Considering separation
I’m not sure whether to leave, or what to do first.
Decide with your eyes open. Understand your position, what to gather and how to have the first conversation.
Divorce strategy & coaching · Online worldwide · In person in London
Know your next move.
Candid strategy for your divorce, and your life after it.
You can feel it going wrong, and you don’t know what to do first. I’ve been there. I’ll help you see the whole picture, make the right moves, protect what matters, and get your life back.
Your lawyeradvises you on the law.
Your therapisthelps you process how you feel.
Your divorce strategisthelps you to see the whole picture and make the right moves.
Why The Freya Method?
Freya, Goddess of Love and War. Because divorce is both.
How I help
Where are you in your divorce?
I work with men and women, wherever you are in the process.
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Preparing for divorce
I’ve decided. I need to get organised.
Get the financial picture straight, choose the right advisers, and avoid the costly early mistakes.
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In the process
Lawyers, money, children and pressure.
Perspective and a plan: prepare for meetings, weigh offers and decide which battles are worth it.
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Life after divorce
The paperwork is ending. Now what?
Rebuild your confidence, routines and independence; deal with an order that isn’t being honoured; and, when you’re ready, move on and start dating again.
The FREYA Method
Five stages, from overwhelm to a plan.
A structured path, built from my own divorce and my professional training. Not everyone starts at the beginning; we start where you are.
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Free yourself
Step back from fear, anger and reaction so you can think clearly. Let go of what’s hurting you, then decide.
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Reclaim your power
Set your boundaries, get the facts, and build your strategy. Know which battles matter, and win them with a clear head.
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Equip yourself
Build the right team around you. The wrong lawyer is an expensive mistake; the right adviser, at the right moment, changes everything.
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You, redefined
Make peace with yourself, and learn to love the person you are now. Stand on your own two feet, and work out who you are and what you want next.
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Activate your future
The Freya Method helps you rebuild your confidence, make the absolute best of yourself, and build the life you want from here.
What I do
The honest one in your corner.
- Make sure nobody takes advantage of you. See the whole picture, and what the other side is likely to do next.
- Protect what matters: your children, your money, and your sanity.
- Get organised: finances, documents, your privacy, and the right team around you.
- Prepare you for solicitor meetings so every paid hour counts.
- Tell you things nobody else will, including your own part in it.
- Get you an agreement you can live with, without years of war.
- Rebuild your life: co-parenting, work, confidence, health, and, when you’re ready, dating.
What I don’t do
I don’t give legal, financial or tax advice, and I don’t provide therapy. I don’t negotiate with, or contact, the other side on your behalf; that’s your solicitor’s job. Mine is to make sure you walk in prepared.
When you need one of those professionals, I’ll help you find the right one and work with them well.
Work with me
Start with one hour.
Start here
One hour with Freya
- Sixty minutes, by video wherever you are, or in person in London
- Candid answers to your questions
- Your situation seen whole, and your next move clear
- Most people start here. Many come back as things move on.
£150
Book your hour
For the whole journey
Private Advisory
- Freya alongside you from first decision to final agreement, and beyond
- A weekly session, booked in advance
- Direct message access on working days, so the question that’s keeping you up gets answered
- Priority booking when something urgent lands
- Limited places
£3,000 a month · minimum three months · by application
Apply by email
A known price for a known hour. No surprises, and nothing to sign until you want more. It starts with a free 20-minute call to see whether I’m the right person.
About Freya
I’ve sat where you’re sitting.
After a decade with my ex-husband, I decided to leave. We had two young daughters. I’d built a career in hedge funds, managing the London office for two major funds, across HR and compliance, and assisting investor relations. When our first daughter was born, we decided together that I’d step away from my career to be at home with the children, and when our second was born we moved to the Middle East. By the time I left, I had no income of my own and not even a credit card in my name.
I prepared for a year before I filed. Then came eighteen months of proceedings, and solicitors’ letters so frightening that some days I couldn’t get out of bed. Nobody told me which letters mattered and which were noise. Nobody told me that no one wins; you reach an agreement you can both live with, and the anger only makes it cost more. We settled both cases just before final hearing, having spent a million pounds between us in legal fees. Three months later, we were on holiday together in the Maldives with our two children. Imagine that, after everything we’d put each other through.
Today I have a home that’s mine, a career I built myself, two happy children, and an ex-husband I can still sit across a table from. My daughters aren’t growing up between two parents at war, and they have a mother who’s good on her own. I have peace. I didn’t expect that to be the best part.
I built The Freya Method from what I wish I’d had: one person who knew the whole picture, told me the truth, and helped me see what needed my attention and what didn’t. Mine was a cross-cultural marriage and a cross-jurisdiction divorce, so I understand the extra layer when two countries, two cultures or two legal systems are involved. I trained and qualified as an accredited divorce coach, and I work with men and women, online worldwide and in person in London. I’m also an investor in legal technology built for family law firms.
I named it after Freya, the Goddess of Love and War, because divorce is both.
Accredited Breakup and Divorce Coach Practitioner. Trained with Sara Davison, The Divorce Coach, through The International Divorce Coach Centre of Excellence, with ICF Continuing Coach Education hours.
Notes from Freya
Useful things nobody tells you.
Short, practical pieces, published as I write them. Follow along on Instagram and LinkedIn.
Three things I’d do before telling my spouse I wanted a divorce
Five things to organise before your first solicitor meeting
Why winning every argument makes for a terrible divorce strategy
Before you send that message to your ex, ask yourself this
The £500 conversation you don’t need to have with your solicitor
What I wish I’d understood before my own divorce
For professionals
I work with your clients’ solicitors, not against them.
My clients reach their solicitor organised, clear about their priorities and ready with the right questions. That makes your advice faster to give and easier to act on.
It works the other way too. I regularly have clients looking for the right solicitor, barrister or adviser, and I’d rather send them to people I know.
Family solicitors, barristers, mediators, therapists and financial advisers: I welcome a conversation.
Questions
Questions people ask
Is this legal advice?
No. Your solicitor advises you on the law. I help you prepare for those conversations, make sense of them, and decide what to do next, and I’ll always tell you when something needs your solicitor’s input.
Do you work with men?
Yes. The Freya Method is for anyone going through separation or divorce.
Is it confidential?
Yes. What you tell me stays between us.
My partner controls the money. Can you help?
Yes. Understanding the financial picture, and preparing to get the information you’re entitled to, is central to my work. If you feel unsafe, please also see the support numbers at the foot of this page.
How do fees work?
One hour is £150, paid when you book. No hourly meter running in the background. If you want me alongside you for the whole process, Private Advisory is £3,000 a month for a minimum of three months, by application.
Do we meet in person?
Either. I see clients in person in London and work by video with clients anywhere in the world.
What does “getting organised” actually involve?
Far more than paperwork: where and when to file, what to gather, how to protect your privacy, and who to have around you. Wherever you are in the process, that’s where we begin.
I’m abroad, or my spouse is. Can you help?
Yes. I work by video wherever you are, and my own divorce crossed two countries and two cultures. Where and when to file is often the first strategic question, and we’ll make sure you ask it before anyone else answers it for you.
Book
Start with a free 20-minute call.
Twenty minutes, confidential, no obligation. If you’re facing a divorce or a breakup and you can’t see a way through, this is where to start. Tell me what’s happening and I’ll explain how I can help you make sense of it, build a strategy, and find your way through to the other side.
Prefer to write? freya@thefreyamethod.com